[ Divorce - How Mediation & Counselling Help you in a ”SMART” settlement.]
When a couple goes through a #divorce, it is undoubtedly a very challenging phase. It is an emotional roller coaster ride. It is only natural that multiple feelings will simultaneously run through their minds
One may feel angry, as in “ How can he/ she do this to me? ”or self-doubt “, What did I do wrong?” and others. If there are children involved, the children may ask themselves, “Did I cause this?”
Divorcing couples should consider emotional support during this phase. Talking to a close friend or family member may help, but sometimes it may be more beneficial to seek professional help.
Consulting a trained Councillor may assist you in organising your thoughts and gaining clarity ( achieving an objective mind frame). Armed with a clear mind, you can make more accurate decisions regarding children, property, maintenance, and the division of other marital assets.
In Singapore, there are Family Service Centres in almost every estate, and you can seek assistance from them if you need to. Alternatively, you can Google Councillors that specialise in Divorce
Once your mind frame is clear, you and your spouse can sit together and discuss the various aspects of #divorce by yourselves or with a Mediator to #mediate #divorce disputes, if any.
A #mediator has the right #disputeresolution skills. They evaluate couples' options through a series of reality-testing questions. These questions bring out the couple's interests. The pair are now able to put themselves in each other's shoes. The couples then can work out their respective trade-offs or add contingency plans to design a “SMART” #divorce #settlement that they can both live with.
#mediation is generally shorter in time in comparison to #litigation and will be less costly.
Feel free to drop me a line or share your perspective in the comments.
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