In a divorce, when we discuss partitions, sometimes parties tend to make extreme demands. When I was reasoning out with them, they were insistent in their position. I had to change my strategy to the approach. Reality checks with inconvenient questions and making them explain the rationale of their demands. Some of the questions I asked them was, does this make sense? Why do you think this is reasonable? Does the money give you relief and resolve what you feel?
These extraordinary monetary demands may be their way to inflict pain to the other. What will elevate this pain is when a Judgment does not come in their favour and now probably will feel that the Judgment was not fair to them.
If we are looking at collaborative divorce, parties need to be in control of their emotions. Then you can respond and not react. Parties should go counselling if needed before and maybe after divorce.
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